Being practical in the scenario of arranged marriages comes easy, yet somehow while dreaming of our knight in shining armor we forget about practicalities and make ourselves vulnerable ( am speaking from my personal experience ).
Be clear about what you want / do not want in the guy. Take 30 minutes to visualize your life partner and write down all the qualities you want. Take 10 minutes to prune the list to must have / non negotiable qualities and the divide them into two parts – limit it a max of 10 attributes . A simple list that i had used used to look like below
Actual
1.Vegetarian
2. Should earn more than me ( Indian men and their ego )
3. Height above 5’4 below 5’11 ( considering my height )
4. Max age difference of 5 year
5. Never married before
Attitude
1. Romantic
2. Intelligent
3. Funny
4. Should love to travel
5. Independent
Add auto filters based on your actual list. And no this cannot be relaxed if you don’t want to regret your decision later on. Ladies I have relaxed my list and accepted men who did not met my criterion – all it leads to is heart break. Was unable to commit to the guy because the criterion was to critical to me – example could not imagine kissing a guy who had just had meat.
Get 3 good photographs for your account.
1. A casual photograph in Jeans
2. A closeup with natural makeup
3. A photograph in formal wear – Saree / Salwar kameez / gown / dress
Be Honest in your Write-up : Give a brief introduction about you & your family. Check for grammar and spelling mistakes. Do not go into details no one has time and be honest. Do not dress your profile or pretend to be someone you are not.
Send Interests : Girls can send interests too. Do not worry whether it will look okay or not , go ahead and send interests to any guys you like.
Chat online : Create a separate email id for your matrimonial mails. You can use this id to chat with prospective suitors , also these days all the matrimonial sites allow you to chat with members if you are paid member.
Wish you all the best for your groom – hunt online.
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